If I were to ever get a tattoo of a word, it would be Trust, right on my forearm to remind myself daily. But trust who? God, myself, others? Trust is a tricky topic and there’s a lot more to it than you might think. You may find it difficult to trust the Universe or other people, but the real challenge comes down to trusting yourself.
Trusting God or the Universe is the basis of many religions and spiritual teachings. It’s easier to give our power away to someone or something else. And then when things don’t go our way, it’s easy to see ourselves as a victim to forces external to us. But actually life is a co-creating endeavor between you and the Universe.
On the other end of the spectrum from victimhood is righteousness. When you are so right in your thinking or beliefs to where there is no room for anything else, you become rigid in your thinking and expansion cannot take place. This moves from co-creating with the Divine to solely creating from our ego.
Trusting ourselves from a heart-centered place is where the real challenge is. And when we don’t, it’s actually a form of self-betrayal. Sounds pretty extreme, but you will know if you’re not trusting yourself because it will show up in your relationships. If you’ve ever felt betrayed by someone, then it’s because you are betraying your Self.
When you don’t trust yourself, you betray yourself and become a vibrational match to others doing the same to you.
Here’s another indicator of not trusting yourself: Have you judged people in your life for the choices they’ve made, particularly when contrary to what you think they should? I certainly have. I have judged other people's actions, why they have done the things they have done, and the choices they’ve made. The opposite of trust is judgment. Anytime you don’t trust someone for the choices they are making, there is an equal lack of trust within yourself.
We tend to measure whether we should trust someone based on our short-term gain in the situation. Trusting someone doesn’t mean their actions or words will go the way you want them to go. To truly trust someone is trusting that they are operating from their Highest Truth available to them in the moment. And whatever that is will be a win-win for you and your Truth in the long run. When everyone acts from a place of Truth, then everyone is playing their part perfectly.
Now obviously not everyone is trustworthy. But here’s the interesting part, when you start to fully trust yourself, you will no longer attract into your vibration untrustworthy people. Trust is usually more subtle than just lying. It’s being completely authentic to who you are. There is a wide spectrum of awareness around this and you will attract a like vibration.
The more you trust yourself, the more you will attract those that do as well.
If you are judging someone for choices they are making (most likely because they’re not in your favor), then stop and take a moment and think about where you’re not trusting yourself. Where are you betraying yourself? It could come in the form of:
Not following your intuition
Not honoring your preferences
Being in denial to a situation
Not being authentic to your real desires
People-pleasing out of fear of abandonment
Agreeing to something you don’t agree with
When you start honoring your Truth, you automatically begin to trust yourself on a deeper level. This is foundational to self-care and self-love. Ultimately trusting yourself is being in tune with and following divine guidance, i.e. your heart. This is co-creating with the Divine. And that you can trust.