If you’ve been around the self-help circles for very long, then you are aware that all of our issues come down to one thing: Not Being Good Enough (a.k.a. a lack of self-worth).
Not pretty enough.
Not rich enough.
Not smart enough.
Not talented enough.
Not just-about-anything-you-can-think-of enough.
What you fill the blank in is inconsequential. You will always find something to insert in your make-believe, insecure, mental, bad-fantasy mind.
We all face the human condition of feeling like just Being is not good enough. (Despite that fact that we are Human Beings.)
And so what do we do?
We try to DO good enough.
We replace Being With Doing.
We can’t believe that just Being – in all our glory – is good enough.
So we Do Do Do into an empty bucket of doing, striving, succeeding, overreaching. We attempt to measure or justify our worthiness through our actions, as if our Doingness will make up for our plain ‘ole Beingness.
The problem is that our Doingness is an empty bucket of Doings and will therefore never be enough. Pheww. No wonder we’re all so tired.
This epidemic of Doing Doing Doing to prove our worthiness has resulted in an imbalance of masculine energy in our world as Doing is yang and Being is yin. We are now entering a time where the art of Being (or Allowing) will bring greater results than Doing. So it’s time to embrace your Beingness.
Can we be good enough just by Being – just by doing nothing - without being successful, without putting on makeup, without volunteering, without making a difference in the world, without having children, without making dinner, without going to work, without looking good on Facebook?
I’m not proposing that we all end up as loafs on a couch. Instead the key is when you do any of the above, do it from a place of unconditional love, not out of conditional proof of worthiness.
Can you unconditionally love yourself while just Being?
I’m trying and I hope you will too because your Beingness is good enough for me and I have a feeling mine might be good enough for you.